What Happens To Your Body When You Get Scared

I was driving at 3 am this morning. The bewitching hour, they call it, I think. As I turned off the freeway, I heard a loud “POP.” It wasn’t a regular pop, it actually made me feel like my ears were going to bleed. It was loud, violent and completely unexpected.

I kept driving. I mean who wants their life to turn into a scene out of a Lifetime horror movie?

I eventually pulled over and inspected my vehicle. The back window was completely shattered. My car had severe body damage. I broke down into tears. My car is my work office and my most important tool. Someone or something damaged one of the physical things I value most. Beyond that, I feared I could have been the one severely hurt instead of my car.

My body began to shake and I felt nausea come over me. Panic and fear riddled my body. I could feel the acidity build within me. My body had become toxic from the shock. I could barely walk as my legs were shaking uncontrollably.

I tried to pull my body out of this state by counting my blessings and being thankful but sometimes biology takes over and your words need to catch up with it.

So what happens to our bodies when we get this scared? I have read that feelings of intense pain are closely connected to our survival “fight or flight” mode.

Fear is processed by a part of the brain that mostly registers feelings and senses rather than thoughts. The thinking part of the brain is temporarily blocked until the body recovers from trauma. So that’s why my own positive words could not calm me down!

Not only does fear shut off the smart part of our brain, it also triggers some serious adrenaline. My legs were shaking, my heart was racing and I lost my breath because my body was getting ready for a big fight or a big flight. In this case, I think it wanted to fight in order to protect myself and my injured car.

As blood surges to parts of our body to help it fight or flight, rather than calmly think, it requires physical action to re-balance the blood flow within our bodies. Since I didn’t actually go fight anyone, my legs began to tremble as a result. Adrenaline wanted me to get crazy but there was no outlet in this particular moment.

It took hours to calm myself down but I was able to use the power of my mind, heart and spirit to conquer the biological effects of shock and fear. And while it took some time for my mind to catch up with my body, I am sure glad it finally did.

How Excuses Can Destroy You

“I didn’t do that because I ran out of time.” “I can’t make it because I already made plans.” “It all got messed up because they didn’t do it right.”

These are just some of the examples people make up to excuse themselves from taking responsibility for their actions.

At the end of the day, no one really cares why you failed at your job. No one wants to hear your “My dog ate my homework,” spiel. It all is irrelevant. The point is, you can’t do something and you also refuse to own up to it.

It is simply human nature to always strive to present ourselves in the best way possible but excuses will never serve us. At restaurants, I often hear servers explain why a meal turned out wrong or why the wait was longer than expected.

No one cares. People don’t want excuses, people want results. If something is wrong, make it right. If something makes someone upset, make them smile and forget.

I am guilty of growing up with a mouthful of excuses as to why I “can’t” do something. Then reality hit. No one cares to hear me complain or whine. My job is to always show up and try my best, regardless of my mental limitations.

My boss doesn’t want to hear the reason as to why I am late, he just wants to know when I will finally show up. My friends don’t want to hear why I can’t make it, they just want to know when I will make it. No one wants to know Jane Doe is the one that is to blame for a problem, they want to make sure it gets resolved and it gets done fast.

We see this everyday. Our peers do it. We do it. Excuses are made to take the blame off of ourselves. It is much more powerful to take ownership of mistakes and take immediate action rather than dwelling on what excuses can be made.

Excuses don’t solve problems, they create more of them. They can destroy our careers and personal lives. People around us will begin to view our word as weak if excuses are all we can provide.

So, what should we do the next time we are tempted to make up an excuse? We should take one step back, analyze the situation and provide a viable solution to the issue at hand. Forget about whose “fault” it was. Forget about your pride. Stay human and humble and take immediate action. Those around you will thank you for it.

The Best Skills To Have In Any And Every Career

Who am I? I ask myself this quite often as I am in the process of marketing myself. I have gone through a lot of schooling and realized the best life lessons are those never taught to you in school.

So what are the best skills to have in any and every career ever? What skills will forever transfer across our resumes and make us more than just marketable, but likeable and reliable as well?

Adaptability and integrity.

I have always been a creature of structure and routine. I love rules and direct instruction. The truth is, life is not structured in any way. Things will be thrown at us and it is our job to open our minds and hearts to change in order to adapt to every which environment and situation. This will push us to take action instead of living in fear no matter what the circumstance. If we can take sour lemons and make something that resembles lemonade than life will always taste amazing.

The second lesson life has taught me is that having integrity is everything. It is easy to do the right thing when people are watching and praising us but the true test is whether we can do the same when no one is around. It is important do the right thing at all times, not only when it is going to make us look good. If we stay consistent by living a life full of integrity it will be much harder for us to falter even in times of weakness.

It doesn’t matter what field we train in or what dream job we pursue so as long as we stay true to ourselves and the ever-changing world around us. By being adaptable we can take continuous action instead of freezing in place and by having integrity we can maintain a certain level of continuity within our life and our relationships. So, in reality the best skills to have in any and every career are the same as the best skills to have in everyday life.