I used to be the biggest basket case you have ever met. I was always running around like a chicken with its head cut off. Crashing my car multiple times a year was the norm and I often spilled things all over myself. Okay, I still spill things all over myself but that’s not the point here.
I used to spend half my time making mistakes and the other half crying about them.
I can blame my parents for this because it got to a point while growing up where they would just ignore my cries and refused to offer up any explanations for as to why I couldn’t spend the night at Suzie Q’s house.
While I can sit here and blame a million people and/or circumstances for all of my faults, I will save you the grief. I am the way I am because of some external factors, defense mechanisms and secret pacts and promises I have made with myself throughout the years.
Regardless of the reasons why, I got to a point in my life where I realized freaking out and crying about things would get me absolutely nowhere in life. If anything, my freak out moments created more unnecessary stress during times of trouble.
A wise person once told me that it’s okay to make mistakes. They told me just to make sure to never make the same mistake twice. And if in case a mistake is made, find a solution and find it fast.
People don’t want to hear about all of your mistakes, they want to hear about all of your solutions, accomplishments and successes (which usually come from a series of mistakes).
I stopped freaking out about everything by changing my mentality. I had to shift what I defined as “failure” in my heart and mind. Crashing into a parked car is not a failure, it is a sign that I need to slow down both mentally and physically.
Everything happens for a reason and just simply giving up after something goes terribly wrong is not the answer let alone the solution.
I now refuse to freak out about things. I simply take a deep breath, analyze the situation (quickly), and then come up with the best solution I can possibly think of. Whether or not this conclusion is the most effective way to fix the problem, I realize I will soon come to find out.
The bottom line is there’s no room for growth without mistakes. We must fall before we can get back up. We must try different options before we can come up with the best one. I mean, isn’t that what the Shark Tank is all about? People inventing things that are solutions to life’s everyday problems.
So next time you feel like freaking out about something, remember you might just be on the verge of creating a genius invention. If not, at least remember freaking out and obsessing over something gone wrong will solve absolutely nothing.
Character is created by making mistakes, learning from them and creating a genius thing or idea as a result of them.
Love Deeply and Forever,