The One Thing You Can Never Get Back Once It’s Gone

look, looking, lost, lose, get, back, one, thing, can't, once, gone, reputation, credibility, trust, circle, communication, people, style, lie, lies, liar, you, believe, I am at that point in my life where I have learned a lot about people and how to communicate with them. It is important to have the right tone with the right people and always adjust your style depending on the situation and audience.

It’s always fun to meet new people and learn how they work. Some people respond better to humor, while others prefer a more direct form of communication. I have even met some people who prefer to talk about everything in the context of dating.

Communication and credibility are key when establishing new relationships and nurturing old ones. Credibility can be established through means of positive and effective communication.

Credibility is very important in life and losing credibility can be life altering.  Once people cannot trust you, it’s over. It can forever damage your reputation. And once that is damaged, good luck ever really repairing it.

Once your coined a liar, you can’t apologize and say you have changed and expect the world to trust you again. I mean, you can, but that doesn’t mean they necessarily will. People will always have that doubt that you are not being truthful.

I have encountered many people who just like to lie. Whether it’s about a past experience that didn’t happen or a movie they never watched, they lie through their teeth at all costs.

I am not sure if it is a defense mechanism they acquired while growing up, or something else, but these people are to never be trusted.

I even worked very close with someone who turned out to be the liar of all liars. They lied about everything just to get a reaction out of me. They lent advice that was only to sabotage me, and it wasn’t until I verified one of their white lies that I realized this person never speaks their truth. It was unfortunate but true.

The moment I realized this person was King Liar, was the moment I stopped sharing anything worth sharing with them. I no longer confided in them and I found myself constantly looking over my shoulder in their presence.

It affected me. I must admit this. Did I let it affect me more than a day? No. I began to find it comical and made sure to never share anything of depth with that lying person again.

So, what’s the point of my long rant? A good reputation is the one thing you can never get back. Once it is gone, it is gone.

Consistency is key in all that you do and consistently lying will only get people to consistently not trust you. If they cannot trust you, you lose all credibility and people will refuse to be around you or have you be a part of any their circles.

Be careful with what you say, don’t say, and wish you could say. Sometimes less is more. Lies can break you, your reputation, and those who once believed in you.  And once you break something or someone, it can’t easily be put back together. Take care of what you have. Take care of you. Take care of your reputation.

Love Deeply and Forever,

Karen

Why Revenge Is a Bad Idea

revenge, job, sorry, poor, weak, lindsay lohan, mean girls, rude, mean, universe, eye for eye, forgive, kind, love, resent, anger, betray, steal, abuse, hurt, pain, life, karma, consequence, nowhere,kindnessI used to be a mean girl. Yes, like the ones in the Lindsay Lohan movie. I was rude and thought everyone was out to get me. After some rude awakenings, I realized being mean would get me nowhere fast.

I turned to spirituality and have been as kind as I can possibly be to those around me ever since. I figure we are all on our own personal journey just trying to make sense of it all. The kinder we are to one another, the better the world will be.

Have people been mean to me? Of course. Have people made fun of me? Well, duh. Have people stolen from me? Sadly, yes. Have people lied to my face? Unfortunately. Have people betrayed me? Multiple times. Have people cheated me? Oh yea.

Many people have done me wrong. Many people have hurt me. Many people have negatively impacted my life. If you were to ask highschool me whether or not these people should get a “taste” of their own medicine, I would say, “Most definitely! Let’s go ruin some lives!”

What do I say today? It’s simply not worth it.

Revenge is pointless. There is no use in putting any more time or energy into situations, things or people who simply do not serve me. I should never try to give others a taste of what I think they deserve. Why? Because it is not my job to punish people.

I believe in karma and a lot of other things. I believe people will live a miserable life if they hurt others. I believe the more you give, the more you will get. I believe that kindness and love are stronger than anything else on this earth.

Above all, I believe in forgiving people who have never apologized.

I forgive you for hurting me.

I forgive you for being rude to me.

I forgive you for judging me.

I forgive you for stealing from me.

I forgive you for betraying me.

I forgive you for abusing me.

I forgive all those people who have done me wrong because they have a certain darkness within their heart and soul. I feel sorry for them and hope they find happiness. I hope they can find a beautiful light to guide them on this journey we call life.

Seeking out revenge is not my job, it is the Universe’s. Those that are poor of spirit will soon meet their Consequence if they haven’t already. I know it sometimes feels just to hold grudges and stay angry at people for years to come. But guess what? That is giving weak people too much power over you.

It is healthier to let go and forgive. You will live a longer and more fulfilling life if you can let go of anger and resentments and replace them with love and forgiveness. I used to think revenge was sweet but I now know kindness is oh so much sweeter.

Love Deeply and Forever,

Karen