Why Thanksgiving is Pointless

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Most of us have our favorite holiday. Or we have the one that our family does “bigger” than the rest. People get together and show each other more love on these favorite holidays. Food is always the showstopper and family conversations fill up every room.

I like all holidays. From Easter to the 4th of July, I love dressing up and having any reason to celebrate. Not everyone can relate, but I have had a good time celebrating life every chance that I get.

Thanksgiving is different. There are no bunnies or Santa Clauses representing the day. With the exception of pilgrims and Indians, there really are no mascots. There are pumpkins involved as if Halloween was never forgotten. It’s all pretty confusing. It’s even gotten to the point where some people don’t even know the history behind it.

Thanksgiving is pretty pointless if you ask me. Who even likes pumpkin pie and turkey with mashed potatoes?  Why give thanks when life is so hard? Why surround yourself with people who just happen to share DNA with you? Why surround yourself with people who you have learned to call family?  Why celebrate a day whose message has gotten lost throughout the years?

I don’t know, but I sure love pumpkin pie, mashed potatoes, and turkey. Above all, I love all my blood relatives and the many people who I’ve decided to call family throughout the years.

I can honestly say Thanksgiving is pointless because of the fact that I give thanks for all I have every single day. But I sure love having an excuse to come together to stuff our faces and talk about all that matters to us.

My family does Thanksgiving in a big way. It is probably the biggest holiday for us. We all get together and bring too much food so we can all go home with five extra plates in our hands. My cousins and I have always had fun sitting at the “kid” table while the adults talk about their own nonsense at the “adult” table.

This year I am thankful for more than ever. My mother is healthy after a difficult year. My sister made it to 21, and my Dad is loving the retired life. I have finally found my dream job, own a beautiful house and car, and recently got a baby Bengal kitten with my love. Not only that but the first book I helped write got published and printed this week!

I didn’t get here without being thankful for my blessings each day. Today is pointless but meaningful. It marks a great moment in time for me and my family. I am still growing up and am so thankful that my support system is alive and well. I have so much love in my life and heart that it hurts and things cannot get any better than this.

We must be thankful each day. We must regularly call our loved ones to just say, “I love you.” We must not judge those people or things that we do not understand. We must understand that with gratitude comes greatness. Life without gratitude can really be underwhelming. I choose to live a life full of meaning, gratitude, and love.

What do you choose to live by?


Love Deeply and Forever,



Why Family Matters Most

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I also have many cousins, aunts and uncles, and they’re just as amazing as my immediate family.

There is one thing I know is true about all of my family and that is that we all love each other unconditionally. Whether or not we agree with each other, whether we are at our best or at our worst, we spread love, no questions asked.

If someone is in trouble, another will come save the day. If someone is in pain, another will absorb the pain and dress it in love and gauze.

I have been reflecting a lot on my family dynamic and realize I am more blessed than most. All of my family loves me as much as I love them and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I am beyond thankful for all of my blessings.

I tend to write about things that bother me or go wrong. It is my therapy. Today I am writing about the things that are right in my life, more specifically, the people, my people…my family.

Like many families, mine is not perfect.

There are certain rifts I wish I could mend. There are certain circumstances I wish were never the case. Although this is all true, I consider all blood relatives family. I will always do my best to guide and support them in any way I can. No matter the distance or financial situation, I will always do my best to give my family lots of love.

Last weekend my cousin got married to the love of her life. I had a spectacular time celebrating their love but it went much deeper than that.

That night, we celebrated our family love.

I danced for hours on end. I am a horrible dancer but I danced because I knew that all of my cousins were present-in one place and at one time.  We are all grown now so such events are a rarity.

This night took me back in time. I remember running around with my cousins on Halloween, I remember hearing all of our aunts and uncles talking much too loud on Thanksgiving, I remember our grandma would get us all the same exact Christmas gifts each year so no one would complain.

I remember so many fond memories of our childhood and now that we are older, I treasure them more than ever. I look back and smile at those simpler and joyous memories. I look back and feel the love that we all shared at those many celebratory get-togethers.

I can’t wait for all of my cousins to grow up and have families of their own so we can recreate those beautiful moments. We will make up our own traditions as well as borrow some from our collective past.

And while we are all still trying to figure it all out, I know we will all come together more often. We will have many more nights of dancing, drinking and laughing, and for that I am more thankful than ever.

Familia over everything.


Love Deeply and Forever,