The One Thing You Should Never Forget at Home

forgot, mind, home, thoughts, never, one, thing, positive, forget, focus, present, believe, goals, dream, accomplish, thoughts, dreams, negative, leave, believe,I was at Crossfit yesterday just loving life. I love that point in the day where I can just stop thinking about work and life and just focus on what my body can do.

Working out offers a great sense of relief that helps me navigate through stress and all of life’s noise. I left work a bit stressed out and was very grateful it was now my time to focus on me. Although I was super excited about working out, I forgot to bring something with me today that I can never forget again.

We started doing some push presses and I kept saying, “I can’t.” What a fatal flaw. I learned long ago, that if you say you can’t, you probably won’t. This was definitely the case this time around. I just couldn’t. My workout partner was very supportive and reminded me that I needed to just, “focus.” Easier said than done, right?

I told myself to “focus” and I just kept failing. It wasn’t until I took the “I can’t” mentality out of my head that I was able to completely focus on the task at hand and finally succeed.

Simply telling yourself to “focus” is not enough. You must believe in yourself and take all negative thoughts out of your head to truly reach your potential. The negative should be replaced by only positive affirmations to achieve any personal goal.

I sound like a nauseating self-help book, don’t I? No apologies here, I saw how not focusing directly affected my workout and how that transfers to life in general.

The story doesn’t end there. We moved on to our timed workout and I forgot to believe in myself again. I had no focus. I went to jump on a box and fell to my knees. Literally. I could have broken a bone but I knew I was going to fall before I actually did. Weird, right?

Not really, this happens in real life too. We create safety nets for ourselves in fear of failing. Maybe we take up substances to avoid dealing with things, or maybe we have plan A, B, C, D, E and F. It’s good to be prepared, but never okay to set yourself up for failure. I knew I was going to fall before I did, and guess what? I did.

Any goal we set can be achieved if we just remember to bring our deep “focus” and positive affirmations with us. You can’t leave this stuff at home. I sound like a broken record when I say, “Just be positive.” And although it sounds so basic and cliché, it is true about most things. I admit, some situations cannot be turned into something positive and/or affirmational.

But when it comes with something you want to accomplish, it is easy to forget to focus and believe in yourself. We are our own toughest critics after all…

I realize I learn a new life lesson every day. Whether it is at the gym, work, or home, I am constantly soaking up life knowledge like a sponge. Yesterday’s lesson was focus. Not the artificial kind, but that deep focus that comes from within.

Simply telling yourself to “focus” is sometimes not enough. I had to let go of all my negative thoughts yesterday before I could actually tap into true focus and determination within me.

Remember, if you ever want to get anything done in life, don’t forgot your focus at home. Take it everywhere you go by staying present and clearing your mind of all negativity that might want to sneak in throughout the day.

Stay present. Stay focused. Stay positive.

Love Deeply and Forever,


How Exercise Saved My Life

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Once upon a time, I was a anxiety-ridden college girl. I would lose my breath at the sign of stress. I couldn’t handle my thoughts or my worries. I was more lost than found and life was more disappointing than I would have ever expected. I poisoned my body with grease and negative thoughts and I thought very little of myself.

So what changed my life? I hate to admit, but what propelled me to be the best version of myself was letting go of a toxic relationship. I can’t or won’t give someone else all the credit. They say the best revenge is living a better life and having a better body, right?! First, I emotionally checked out of the negative relationship. Second, I began transforming my body.

I had three jobs at the time, so if you say you don’t have time for fitness, you are not being 100% truthful with yourself. I worked out two times a day, 7 days a week (excessive I know). I was on a mission though. I started relentlessly counting calories and I ate only 1,200 a day (unrealistic I know).  I did a run in the morning and some sort of dance class at night. My life began drastically changing.

I saw the pounds fall off. My waist got tiny, my face got slender. I reached a certain point where I almost looked sick. I became obsessed with this new venture. Anyway, months down the line I realized being healthy doesn’t mean being unhappy or keeping yourself from the food you love.

I had to stop counting calories the moment I ate a whole See’s chocolate box in the middle of the night. But the habits have remained. I work out as much as possible during the work week and I watch what I eat (for the most part). I have learned to love myself as is. Of course, I gained some weight back but it has been healthy weight. I now lift heavy weights at Crossfit and am okay with being a curvier, stronger and happier girl.

So what about the anxiety? It has completely disappeared. I have had no attacks since I began working out. I don’t work out to spite my ex. I don’t work out to be sickly thing. I work out to maintain a happy mind and soul. I take the necessary days off and feel more confident than ever. Finding that fitness balance is key. Just like anything else in life, overkill is never healthy.

Exercise saved my entire life. It took my anxiety away, created positive change in my life, helped grow my confidence, showed me how strong I am, taught me balance is key, and made me feel like the best version of myself to date. It continuously provides all of these things and more. I will never stop. And while I am not ripped or a size 2, I am the healthiest and happiest I have ever been. Thank you, Exercise, for saving my life.