Why Thanksgiving is Pointless

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Most of us have our favorite holiday. Or we have the one that our family does “bigger” than the rest. People get together and show each other more love on these favorite holidays. Food is always the showstopper and family conversations fill up every room.

I like all holidays. From Easter to the 4th of July, I love dressing up and having any reason to celebrate. Not everyone can relate, but I have had a good time celebrating life every chance that I get.

Thanksgiving is different. There are no bunnies or Santa Clauses representing the day. With the exception of pilgrims and Indians, there really are no mascots. There are pumpkins involved as if Halloween was never forgotten. It’s all pretty confusing. It’s even gotten to the point where some people don’t even know the history behind it.

Thanksgiving is pretty pointless if you ask me. Who even likes pumpkin pie and turkey with mashed potatoes?  Why give thanks when life is so hard? Why surround yourself with people who just happen to share DNA with you? Why surround yourself with people who you have learned to call family?  Why celebrate a day whose message has gotten lost throughout the years?

I don’t know, but I sure love pumpkin pie, mashed potatoes, and turkey. Above all, I love all my blood relatives and the many people who I’ve decided to call family throughout the years.

I can honestly say Thanksgiving is pointless because of the fact that I give thanks for all I have every single day. But I sure love having an excuse to come together to stuff our faces and talk about all that matters to us.

My family does Thanksgiving in a big way. It is probably the biggest holiday for us. We all get together and bring too much food so we can all go home with five extra plates in our hands. My cousins and I have always had fun sitting at the “kid” table while the adults talk about their own nonsense at the “adult” table.

This year I am thankful for more than ever. My mother is healthy after a difficult year. My sister made it to 21, and my Dad is loving the retired life. I have finally found my dream job, own a beautiful house and car, and recently got a baby Bengal kitten with my love. Not only that but the first book I helped write got published and printed this week!

I didn’t get here without being thankful for my blessings each day. Today is pointless but meaningful. It marks a great moment in time for me and my family. I am still growing up and am so thankful that my support system is alive and well. I have so much love in my life and heart that it hurts and things cannot get any better than this.

We must be thankful each day. We must regularly call our loved ones to just say, “I love you.” We must not judge those people or things that we do not understand. We must understand that with gratitude comes greatness. Life without gratitude can really be underwhelming. I choose to live a life full of meaning, gratitude, and love.

What do you choose to live by?


Love Deeply and Forever,



How Cooking Changed My Life: Purple Carrot Vs. Sun Basket


I have always liked knowing what ingredients go into my food. Organic selections have always intrigued me, yet their price never has. I know what I should be eating and when, however, I don’t always follow my own advice.

I lost over 40 pounds a few years ago by cooking the same type of meals every single day. It was always a basic protein and some veggies. No oil, only dry spices were allowed. I did my best to ignore the fact that everything I put in my mouth was bland. I was on a weight loss mission!

Somewhere along the line, I missed flavor. I missed what makes food so amazing. I began just eating healthy without all the calorie counting or internal body shaming. This led me to become a bit lazy. I drive a lot for work so “healthier” drive-thrus like Pollo Loco became the norm.

Those meals got old too. I mean, how many modifications can you conjure up in the Pollo Loco drive-thru line?

I recently discovered meal kit delivery services. They deliver fresh ingredients to your door. They come in pre-portioned containers with specific recipes associated with each ingredient bag. Everything comes well insulated so you don’t even have to be home when your food arrives!

I did my research and found some had very high-calorie counts. I went with a plant-based option called Purple Carrot. It is sponsored by Tom Brady, so I thought, this one must be good!

It was good. It was more than good, it was great. However, I am not vegetarian and I quickly realized I rather have an actual meatball than something that resembled it. Not only that, but the meal prep time associated with building items from plants was quite tedious. I am a perfectionist, so every meal must turn out just like the recipe card.

After just two vegetarian weeks, I opted for a change. I decided to start ordering Sun Basket instead. It markets its brand as a “healthy” and “organic” meal delivery service. Prior to receiving my first meal kit package, I was extremely excited! I couldn’t wait to eat meat again!

When my first Sun Basket arrived, I got to cookin’. Sun Basket recipes were so much easier to make! I got excited about creating a meal my partner and I could enjoy without questioning how it was made.

My first meal was Thai Chicken Curry and I couldn’t believe what a little chef I became in a matter of minutes! It took a maximum of 35 minuted to make and that dinner alone convinced me I would be sticking with Sun Basket.

I never thought I could cook until Sun Basket. My new meal kit cooking ritual has changed my life. Every recipe forces me to slow down, mentally and physically.

I always try to multitask like a crazy woman and these step-by-step recipes create a certain level of zen within my soul. It’s hard to explain, but as a hard working woman, cooking has just never really appealed to me.

Sun Basket has changed all of that for me. I love cooking now, I like having an excuse to “slow down.” Not only that, but my honey loves the night off he gets when I offer to cook for us.

Who knew cooking could be so relaxing, peaceful and fun? I always thought I would never have time to cook, but just like exercising, I now force myself to make the time. I used to hate running around the market looking for ingredients I did not have and now Sun Basket just delivers it all to my door.

I didn’t have the creativity to just make something with the ingredients in the fridge and now Sun Basket does all the thinking for me. It’s more awesome than anything I have ever tried before.

So, even though a meal kit delivery service might sound a little lazy or dumb to some people, I can honestly say I will continue to order Sun Basket as long as they are in business. It calms me down and saves me a lot of money. If you want three free meals to get started, let me know. I don’t get paid to market this brand, but if I did, it would be a dream come true! Order Sun Basket today!


Love Deeply and Forever,


The Power Of In N Out Burger

I was 16 years old when my love affair with In N Out Burger began. I was young, naive and angry at the world. I was forced into slave labor, I thought. I didn’t belong in a burger joint, I thought.

My parents forced me to get a job. They even went as far as actually filling out the application and scheduling an in-person interview with the store manager.

I said all the wrong things and he hired me on the spot. I was distraught. I played sports and was in all advanced classes, why did I have to make french fries too?

I cried on my way to every shift. I didn’t stop crying until the day I realized how fortunate I was to have to work as a hobby. I was humbled on the spot. People chose this place as their lifelong career and that was truly something to admire.

In N Out Burger taught me how to mop, clean bathrooms, smile at all times, look people in the eye, but most importantly, how to live a life full of integrity and service.

It always hung proudly on the wall. One of In N Out’s core values “INTEGRITY,” alongside an In N Out definition of the word. Integrity is doing the right thing when no one else is watching. It’s easy to do the right thing when others are watching but it becomes much more difficult when the only person watching is you.

And service, well it is not as simple as it sounds. Service is something In N Out culture taught me along the way. The customer is always right. No matter what. Now that was hard to grasp. Customer’s were oftentimes wrong, but at In N Out, they were “right” regardless. This taught me to always turn frowns upside down. This taught me that great service brings great results.

These values were instilled within me by force. My parents forced me to work, In N Out forced me to excel at service and integrity. Are things that are forced upon us always bad? Definitely not. Are these values something I still hold close to my heart? Most definitely. I do the right thing when no one is watching at all times and live a life full of gratitude and service. And that’s the power of In N Out Burger…