Why You Don’t Have To Like Me

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I never really fit in anywhere. My culturally diverse background left me neither here nor there. I was never white enough or Mexican enough. I still tried to fit in, though.

When I got to high school, I said F*** it. I am who I am, if people don’t like it then that’s too bad. So I became a mean girl. Why?  Well, because I just could.

I had awesome friends but I was never too awesome myself. I didn’t care about anything or anyone. I was bitter and angry at the world and my only friend was oftentimes music. Lyrics got me. Lyrics accepted me.

I learned to find the balance between being too nice and being too mean somewhere in my 20s. I am who I am. I am sarcastic but have learned to be sweeter. I am rude but have learned to be well-mannered, well, most of the time anyway.

Now that I am closer to 30 than I am to 20 I realize no one has to like me. Those that matter are simply three people, mom, dad and my sister. They’ll forever love me unconditionally. I can count my friends on one hand and life is awesome this way.

If you don’t know me yet, you don’t have to like me. I am very opinionated so I would honestly be surprised if you did learn to like me. I have a pure heart but it’s often very guarded. And with good reason. Like many people, I have been broken and I have put myself back together.

I don’t demand you like me but I do demand respect. I respect all people who have love in their hearts. Even if it is hidden, I respect you. I respect all people who have talent and who have a set of strong values like integrity. I even respect people who don’t know any better because they might be a product of circumstance.

If you and you hate my guts, that’s fine. Just show me respect to my face. Maybe you don’t like what I say or how I do, but what better reason to respect others than for their differences.

I have had many situations where I judge books by their covers. I mean, haven’t we all? I then find the humanity within their hearts and forget all ill-conceived notions.

I believe in mutual respect among all mankind. We are on a certain journey together and most of us are simply trying to make the best out of this fleeting moment we call life.

We don’t have to agree or understand those around us but I do think it is necessary to respect. Respect beliefs, respect views, respect space, respect possessions, respect journeys, respect cultures, respect differences. We don’t have to be best friends with our neighbors but mutual respect goes a very long way.

Choose love. Choose acceptance. Choose respect.

Love Deeply and Forever,

Karen

How To Stay In Love Forever

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I met him and knew he was meant to be in my life forever. I can’t tell you exactly how I knew, but there was definitely something about the way he looked at me. His eyes told stories I could only hope his lips would one day tell.

Life continued to happen and we continued to deeply care for each other. No matter what boyfriend or girlfriend of the week the other had, we couldn’t stay away from each other. We had become a little more than friends throughout the years.

They say timing is everything and I couldn’t agree more. I wanted him to let down his walls. I wanted us to reach the next level. We never did. We stayed romantically stagnant as our lust and friendship grew. Whether one or the other was platonic at the time, I will never know.

Anyway, here we are 12 years later. I am more in love than I ever thought possible.

He is my best friend and so much more. He brings happiness to my every day and makes sure I am always safe and cared for. Our family is growing (with pets of course)!

We are a team with an unbreakable bond. And even when we can’t agree, we still long to be next to each other. We know our souls are meant to be together.

We have different views regarding certain topics but we work well because we both are able to listen to each other. At the end of the day, even our smallest disagreements are productive.

Many couples say communication is key in every relationship. It’s true.

Listening is the most essential part of communication. People never forget the way a person who listened to them made them feel. However, they can easily regret sparking up a conversation with a self-absorbed narcissist.

I now realize that I love listening to my partner because of all those years he spoke but said nothing at the same time. All those years that I yearned to know more about that look in his eyes. We were friends with limitations and now we are a team harnessing the power of listening with the heart.

Remember, some of the most powerful things can be said with absolutely no words. If you just listen closely, you can leave the greatest footprint in the hearts of others.

Find eternal love in listening.

Love Deeply and Forever,

Karen

Why I Live For The Weekend

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We all have our reasons to live. Some have kids, others have businesses, and some even live for their significant others.

I support all reasons to live and excuses to give and try a little harder. I have many reasons to live but today I have to talk about the main reason I make it Monday through Friday.

At 20 something, I can honestly say my weekends have always meant different things to me at different points in my life. While in college, weekends were a reason to party, while in grad school, weekends were the days to get all my errands done.

Much has changed in my late 20s.

I work a job that requires extensive driving. I love the freedom but can’t deny the fact that it is taxing on my body. Things are finally starting to hurt. Wrinkles are starting to form and stress can be difficult to avoid on some days.

My mind and body require a reset in order to effectively function. I work out often and eat right (most of the time). I try to keep my body working like a fine-tuned machine at all times. And while I do all that is possible to reset during the week, my body requires so much more.

Call me “old” or call me “boring” but my weekends are my time to sleep!

I used to think those “weekend warrior” shirts were stupid but things have changed. I am that person. This might change the moment I have kids or the moment I get married, but for now I am loving and looking forward to all that is weekend and weekend-related.

When I used my weekends as full errand days all of my days would mesh into one and that became real old real quick. Studies show that people live more fulfilling lives if they constantly look forward to something. My “somethings” are the weekends.

I wake up somewhere between 11 to noon. I often have my boyfriend serve me breakfast in bed. I then watch mindless crime shows and think about all the things I don’t need to do that day. Some weekends I work out both days, while other weekends require pure couch vegetation.

No matter what type of weekend it is, I love and savor every moment of it. I take in every moment I get to spend with loved ones, and that alone is my reason to live today.

Some weekends I have saved for just myself and those can also be just as special. While some people require extensive vacations, I simply require beautiful weekends.

Today is Friday and this weekend seems extremely promising. Some errands are unfortunately involved tomorrow, but after that it just going to be a lot of hibernation and good food.

Cheers to your weekend! Cheers to my weekend! Cheers to life!

Love Deeply and Forever,

Karen